Hope i can finally get in the mood for writing.....
For fat women, being stylish isn’t a luxury. It’s often a necessity to get hired, to get access to healthcare, to get treated like a human being.
Fat women have all kinds of narratives about sloppiness, laziness, dirtiness to overcome. Sometimes heels are a crucial part of looking “put together” in a way that sufficiently convinces people that we care about ourselves, that manages to counteract pervasive cultural narratives that fat people don’t care about ourselves. That we have “let ourselves go.”
Being “put together” is part of the way many of us convey to a judgmental world that we are worth caring about.
I get treated completely differently at a $20 hair salon if I’m dressed up or dressed down. Two totally different experiences. I get treated differently at the doctor’s office, and at the emergency room. I can’t go to the ER in sweatpants, because I’ll get shittier treatment. In an emergency, I have to worry if I am dressed up enough to prove that I deserve respect and care.
This is definitely true in my experience. I’m pretty sure it’s also why I walk fast.
This, unfortunately, is a true story. It’s one of the reasons I RESISTED “dressing up” for so long. The difference in the way people relate to me makes me intensely angry sometimes. Actual “seeing red” angry.
So. Um. I might have some unresolved anger issues.(via beefranck)
So sad! But so true!